My point in all of this is that if you withdraw, you will most likely get him to put in more effort, but that will only take you so far.Ultimately, if you want a relationship to be as you want it to be, you need to be true to what you really want.
I know she’s not interested in hooking up with other guys, we see each other regularly enough (one a week or so) and when we’re together it’s nice, but there’s no feeling of exclusivity or dependency. The girl starts becoming attached to me, missing me and wanting to become more “official”.
So I guess, people must show at least some interest and be involved in keeping the relationship open or make some contribution for development of the relationship.
I guess, if someone acts as a cold fish, it’s not good either.
My present boyfriend told me that even though he kept a relationship with his previous girlfriend for 6 years, he eventually broke up with her because she was too distant and rarely had time for him.
In my previous relationship it happened the same that I was too distant and my boyfriend eventually broke up with me, saying that he is tired of waiting for my commitment.
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