And so, right-swiping everyone we don’t mind the look of is pretty much the only alternative.
But, often, a right-swipe is as far as it goes – as people prove not to be their matches cup of tea.
You want to meet them right away because things feel easy and there’s magic behind the comfort of your phone screen.
Then once you’re sitting across from each other, you find out that there’s no magic at all.
Depending on the app or site you’re using, you’re going to have to do a lot of sifting through before you find any good candidates.
Except most people leave profiles open-ended to cast a wide net.
Then once you’re sitting across from each other, you find out that there’s no magic at all. On the other side, you can be pleasantly surprised by someone that didn’t wow you exchanging messages. You’re back to square one without as much as an explanation other than assuming that they’re just busy.
The biggest reason why I think people should give up the vicious cycle of dating online is because there are better, more reliable ways to meet people.
How many times have you met someone at a conference or on a weekend trip thinking they were a breath of fresh air, only to find out it was a high chance you’d never see them again?
Online dating isn’t always that extreme although it operates under a level of immediacy that can feel overwhelming.
Because why would you make the effort to really get to know somebody when you’ve got 70 matches chillin' in your phone?