To make something a habit, you simply have to focus on doing it for 30 days.
So let's clarify the difference between Action and Play by defining the difference between a Meeting and a Date.A few years ago I asked her to join our present firm to help with some expansion plans.As a result she and I work together daily, have two teenage daughters, have house payments, car payments. Now lets say we decide to just get away from it all and go out for a dinner "date" - a little R&R.Then at what I thought was the appropriate time, I would say, "Oh by the way, Pat, how did third shift do last night? Then when the food comes lets make it just Play." That way nobody has to sit on the edge of their mental seat waiting for the ball to be passed to them while we're eating." or "Dave, how did West Coast sales look through midweek? So Play time means no major decision topics whether they are about work, the leak in the roof, the kids' report cards or even your health, unless it's good.
Imagine candlelight, a little wine - we're having a good time.