The previously mentioned young man who left his house in the middle of the night told me that all he had wanted to do was make out with another male and maybe do some mutual touching. The problem is that parents don't talk to their kids enough or at all about sex and all of the responsibilities that it entails (both physically and to themselves).However, the man he was with insisted on intercourse, for which the youth was not ready, and he was basically raped. Why don't parents tell their children I expect that you date only someone who is within a certain age range or not allowed to date at all until they reach a certain age, or only have sex in a long term committed relationship after you have been together for X amount of time etc.
Mr Santos told German news agency Ruptly TV: “Basically she likes to be touched.(“Hey, it’s not as though I don’t want to…but my Mom/Dad/Teacher might barge in and then we’d be busted.”) However, gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth are without such escape hatches --places these youth can safely experiment with relationships and sexuality are severely lacking.Thus, as they turn to and hook up phone apps to connect with adults in the face of too few alternatives, they are stepping into a world that is moving way too fast and is potentially dangerous. I agree that underage teens shouldn't be seeking out adults to meet their sexual needs.The main point here is that when considering sex between teenagers and adults it is important to avoid painting it all with the same brush--judging all such acts as rape or sexual assault especially when the youth and the young adult are not far from each other in age like Ms. Secondly, this case points to the lack of safe opportunities for sexual and romantic experimentation for gay, lesbian, and bisexual youths.During several recent speaking engagements, I have been asked by school officials what to do about gay, bisexual boys, and transsexual or gender queer youth who are making “hook up” dates with older men who wait for them after school and whisk them away somewhere to presumably have sex.
Each of these cases underscores the importance of understanding the sexual needs and drives of gay youth as well as the paucity of safe opportunities to experiment and explore them.