The big alarm bell was when Joey’s girlfriend Kathy cheats on him with Chandler.Not only is that his best friend, but he massively betrayed him.Oh, and in case you’re still in TV fantasyland, the fallout isn’t going to be resolved by spending Thanksgiving in a box, a la Joey and Chandler.Let’s say you’ve spent the past year writing earnestly about your separation and eventual divorce from your husband. You vacillate between friendship and formality and a few slip-ups wherein you become lovers, but you eventually settle into a nice, friendly relationship with occasional flirting.Despite that, the new couple have a short-lived relationship with Joey’s blessing. This kind of thing would NEVER HAPPEN in the real world because, and I don’t condone violence, Joey would’ve beaten him to a pulp and never spoken to the dude again.Friendships have certain elements that mesh together to solidify a bond.
Dating their ex undermines the latter two, bringing a sense of betrayal I personally wouldn’t ever forgive.
Or is it time to put up a wall until you are less confused and have a better handle on what’s been happening over these past few weeks?
I mean, we've heard the charming phrases like "bros before hos" and "chicks over dicks" so frequently that the notion is ingrained into our minds: Don't date your ex's buddy and don't date your friend's ex. Without rhyme, reason, logic and common sense, we often find ourselves inexplicably attracted to someone. True friendship and true love are both elusive the key is trying to get them both!
Yes, you may (as many people tend to) get completely wrapped up in your own feelings and give the middle finger to anyone who tries to tell you otherwise, but if one of your besties decided to start humping your ex, would you be supportive or forgiving?
The sheer concept of seeing one of my mates with an ex is something that’d affect me for a number of reasons.
You maintain positive communications, for the most part, and congratulate yourself on a divorce well done.