The conversation about the impossibility of finding man-love in Lotus Land ricochets between raucous laughter and thoughtful reflection until the table goes silent and the subject finally sinks, like a stone thrown in an impossibly dark wishing well.“This is not a lighthearted issue,” says Jodi Derkson.
“There is a serious problem here.”PHOTOS: MORE SINGLES LOOKING FOR LOVEThis is Vancouver, the women explain, in conversational shorthand that speaks volumes about the city’s widely-perceived shortcomings for straight daters.
I’m not even going to contact you because I’m too ordinary.”Lessard may see himself as ordinary, but he’s got a great dating resume: A stable career that allows him to work from home, a funky casual style, is open to having kids and if you have kids, that’s okay too.
For a lark one night, she posted a personal ad on Craigslist. Once they saw it, their pictures started coming in. Even before the article ran, women were, well, bitching.
Because Vancouver doesn’t have that dating mechanism, it’s awkward for people to ask each other out.”Many of the men he’s worked with find Vancouver women to be intimidating.
Sebastien Lessard, 37, who came to Vancouver from Quebec City seven years ago, can attest to the intimidation factor.
At 47, Derkson has no kids, and has never been married — nor is she desperate to get hitched. People are cold.” While living in Florida a few years ago, she was turning men away.“I think the Latin culture in Florida really helps; people are warm, men smile at you on the street. Men here, they don’t even turn their head to look at you.”Back in Vancouver, she just wishes that when she smiles at someone on the street, they would smile back.
She’d be happy with just a little more warmth and sensuality. Rachel Fox, a 34-year-old writer, says her experiences of meeting men in other cities, like New York, where she used to live, are incredibly different than in Vancouver: “The pool is a lot bigger there.