She is also author, with Nora Shank, of the book The Measure of Success: Uncovering the Biblical Perspective on Women, Work, and the Home.
When I was a single woman in my mid-thirties, I invited the elders of my church and their wives to a formal holiday dinner as a way of expressing my thanks to them for their care and ministry. ” This pastor offered this comment as an expression of thanks and I received it that way.
Not one minute of those two months was focused exclusively on you, a prerequisite to really evaluating taking a relationship to the next step.
In my early 20s, I too would have served pizza on paper plates, if indeed I had thought at all about offering hospitality.
Insisting that a man date you exclusively while he’s dating you sends him the signal that you are special, that you deserve love and care and respect. In my many years of matchmaking I’ve found that the one thing that’s gotten even the most confirmed bachelors off the fence and into marriage are women with inner self-confidence – no matter how quiet or soft they are – that insist on being treated the way they would treat their partner – with exclusive attention. Ziva Kramer, MA has been an international matchmaker, dating coach and spiritual advisor for professional singles for many years.
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While there’s no magic bullet to prevent heartbreak, there is a good chance that if the relationship ended sooner you would not have fallen so hard.
In the future, from the first date, let the guy know what you want and need: exclusivity. Even if you’ve missed your opportunity to set your boundaries on the first date, do it now.