She says things like “I need him to say he wants a relationship, and then I’ll open up,” or “Once he gets to know me, he probably won’t like me.” The Scaredy Cat may put her guy through lots of tests before she feels confident that he’s truly interested.When he passes those tests or shows he has feelings for her, she questions it and might up the ante.
She insists he give and give with little or no reciprocity; after all, he’s the The Man and she’s his prize!
The 18 Year Old The 18 year old dates – sometimes a lot – but she doesn’t have relationships because “she doesn’t want the men who want her, and the men she wants don’t want her.” She doesn’t know what will make her happy and has not yet learned how to communicate and relate to grownup men.
By default she clings to the same type of guy she wanted in high school or college. (See the Wow Me Woman below.) The nice, relationship-minded men get quickly discarded by the 18 year old.
The Scaredy Cat he Scaredy Cat has been emotionally wounded by men in the past, and she can’t let go of it.
She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.
Just like women, the men you’re dating have lived and learned.