Even among men who are positively inclined toward marriage and are from identical educational and socioeconomic backgrounds, 20 percent will reach the age of commitment a year or more before our estimates, while another 20 percent will only consider marriage as a real option two to four years later.
So if you’re dating a man much younger than the commitment age, the chance he’ll commit is relatively small.
Finally, we had men in their sixties ask the questions, and that solved the problem.
When we conducted a focus group with 12 men who had just proposed to women, we learned that men were far more likely to marry when they got tired of the singles scene.But this is taking a gamble that the man is typical, because the figures I’ve just given are educated estimates.Not all men mature at the same rate, and other factors can and do affect a man’s readiness to marry.He’s not a dating expert, nor an advice columnist, psychologist or relationship therapist.His expertise lies in the field of market research and he applies his scientific skills to educate women with all they need to know about men.
When Beth, one of my better researchers, said that men who were averse to commitment were drawn to her like bees to honey, I gave her a copy of the summary report of my research on “why men marry.” The report showed that the primary reason a man asks one woman to marry and not another is that each woman treats him differently.