“You have to make society better.”OKCupid is owned by IAC.
International Cupid is a popular foreign dating and personals site helping 1000s of singles find their prospective long-term partner.
Just like a messy divorce-in-progress or the fact that there are three kids under the age of 10 waiting at home, Carlson feels that disability is an important fact that potential partners should know from the beginning.
Unlike Woodward, who feels the Internet can bring out more negative in people than positive, Carlson thinks online dating is actually a better, less scary way for guys to approach her.
But after navigating the minefield of online dating, this independent and successful young woman has begun to suspect that walking, even if it means physical discomfort, might make her love life go more smoothly.
Because of disability trolling, some people may hesitate to disclose their differences right away.
With the incredible surge in popularity of online dating since its inception, countless niche communities have popped up.
Clown Dating.com, for instance, is a singles community for professional clowns, aspirational clowns, or people who just find clowns sexy.
“I always disclose my disability right away in my profile and photos,” she says via email.
They simply want to know how exactly you’re “broken” and whether or not you can still have sex.
After fielding questions like those day after day, you begin to feel like the people online are dating your wheelchair, rather than dating you.
“I never used one and never will.”Woodward and Carlson feel that their disability doesn’t—or shouldn’t—limit them to dating only people who have disabilities also.
While society might view their physical difference as one big “Other” sign tied to their backs, these women merely view it as a key part of their identities, one that they’re proud of.“I don’t know that you can make online dating better,” says Woodward.
Woodward chronicles these reactions on her blog “Step Funny Right Now.”Some of the first-time messages she’s received from guys on OKCupid:“…Are you handicapped cause in half the pics your [sic] standing and the others your [sic] not so I’m confused.”“Hello there. ”For people like Woodward who look different than the norm, these kinds of awkward first-liners are a fact of life.