Concerned at his tone and the overreaction, Oliver blocked him on all channels available to him: social media, Whats App, Grindr.
Three days later, Oliver was at home watching television when his phone rang with “No caller ID” displayed. It rang again and again and again until eventually Oliver picked up.
“I said, ‘Look, we’re not having unprotected sex, we’re using a condom.’ He said, ‘Yeah that’s fine, can I take a shower?
’’’During foreplay, Rowe, said Oliver, “went on top of me and was trying to penetrate me and I was like, ‘Wait, what are you doing?
“It was him, he’s like, ‘You think you can block me?
“We hung out.” And as the afternoon turned into early evening and the prospect of sex surfaced, Oliver made one thing clear.
Today, in an exclusive interview with Buzz Feed News and on condition of anonymity, Oliver reveals what happened when he met Rowe, the extraordinary aftermath of the deliberate transmission, and how he is refusing to let Rowe destroy his life. A week after Oliver sent the email, we met in a restaurant in Brighton.
His long-term relationship had recently come to an end. Following the split, while still feeling bruised and vulnerable, he started venturing on to dating apps.
She told him to sit down.“She said, ‘I wanted to let you know there’s been four other cases in these surrounding areas saying the same exact thing you said – a Scottish guy, phone calls – and they all have HIV.
We strongly advise you talk to the authorities right now.’”Oliver knew exactly what he wanted to do.
“I just wanted to meet somebody and have a good time,” he said.