and even then, the level and of stimulation will vary from woman to woman. The better you know yourself – whether you need direct contact with the clit or slightly off to the sides, whether you’re very sensitive and require the lightest of touches or you need someone to bury their face right on top – the better able you are to guide your partner.Be sure to vary your masturbation routines – using more lube, less lube, switching hands, or different types of stim in order to keep from developing a specific habit that might keep you from being able to achieve any sort of climax with a partner.Some guys need more stimulation to the underside of the glans while others need pressure more than friction.Some need more varied friction while others do better with a specific rhythm. after all, how’s a partner supposed to get you off when don’t know what you need?
Similarly, women benefit from familiarity with themselves.In fact, some “killer” sex techniques (especially any recommended by Cosmo) will more likely get you thrown out of bed instead of being hailed as a godly lover.first sexual encounter tends to be awkward; you’re dealing with a relative stranger, with his or her own preferences, turn-ons and deal-breakers. One person’s patented oral technique may deliver screaming orgasms with one partner and set another’s skin to crawling. I’ve lost track of how many people I’ve known who thought they were God’s own cocksmen, but whose girlfriends would later confide that they faked their orgasms.They may use what Dan Savage has termed “the death grip” where they squeeze their penis like it owes them money; some guys masturbate by humping their mattress or the space between the bed and box-spring.As a result: they orgasm through regular sexual contact – much to their (and their partner’s) frustration.
This is one reason why I advise guys to invest in a masturbation sleeve like a Fleshlight or a Tenga – it’s a great way to ensure that you don’t train yourself to learn the wrong lessons (as it were) from solo sex.