The problem arose when, one year later, she STILL didn’t want to pay rent because “he could afford it”.
Ironically, the same way that she feels that “it’s not about money, it’s about principle”, so does he. Another thing: your boyfriend may be cheap, but I’d have to guess he’s better than the rich guys who equate money with love.
So while I’m not going to defend your fiancées behavior – cheap is not cool – I’d have to ask you one really tough question: Would you be marrying him if HE made ,000?I hear you, and I’m sure a number of readers do, too. Which gives you two choices: leave him because you feel like you can’t spend your life with a rich man who is cheap, or stick around and appreciate that you have a super life, filled with love, companionship, fun, and tons of material possessions – but your husband is simply a skinflint. I also think you may be equating his lack of generosity with a lack of love. I think two things: he’s genuinely cheap, and he genuinely loves you.The real sticking point is that his take on “his money vs. He can provide for you in 100 different ways, but because he’s hesitant to give you 0 to go to the store, he doesn’t truly love you. If he didn’t love you, he wouldn’t be marrying you.And even though you have everything you want in your life, you can’t get over the fact that he’s so stingy that he won’t let you spend what he considers “his” money.In your mind, it’s not about the money, it’s about the principle!
Some stages take longer than others to go through and some people take much longer at each stage.