On the tumblr ‘Trans Men of Grindr’ users post screenshots of conversations on gay apps to show some of the insensitive, unsupportive and downright hostile comments other users send to them spontaneously.
One Grindr user, ‘Leapolitan,’ a trans woman who has been using queer apps and websites since before her transition, sent me an archive of conversations with men who talked to her in ways that varied from condescending to downright ludicrous, including one man whose opening gambit was to call her an unsexy witch.
But these functions have, for some, fetishized trans users as well as help build a group of openly trans users.
Some gay apps, like the newer Mister, have not subscribed to the community/tribe model.
He has not experienced opened antagonism on the apps, but has found himself used as a fount of information, whether it be other trans users seeking advice, or any number of other--to use his phrase-- ‘boner killers’.“There was one guy who I talked to recently who had cancer, or something, who lost the ability to produce testosterone,” Gabe says.
“So he was contacting all of these trans guys and asking what’s your dosage, what’s your height and weight, because technically we’re in the same situation.”If 2014 was hailed optimistically as “the transgender tipping point” by Time magazine, heralded by the success of Orange Is The New Black actress Laverne Cox, there remains engrained social ignorance—most tragically crystallized in the apparent suicide of Ohio teenager Leelah Alcorn.