Some people prefer to give their prospects a certain shelf life before writing them off, but if you’ve been dating for over a month and you’re not feeling “F*ck Yes! If your crush happened to be speaking about you to his or her friends, and they asked if he was into you, would he or she say, “F*ck Yes!
,” or “Yeah, I’m pretty into it” followed by a shoulder shrug? Why would you want your dating life to feel mediocre at best?
If someone you’re dating is happy staying in this awkward stage of limbo, and you’re not happy, it’s a sign that you should walk away.
It’s easy to fall into a trap and end up in Dating Purgatory.
If you constantly find yourself in Dating Purgatory, it may be time to consider the five following rules: In the words of Ricky Bobby’s dad, “If you’re not first, you’re last.” In other words, if you’re dating someone and the way you feel is not “F*CK YES, I like this person,” it should be an automatic “NO.” The opposite — how your prospect feels about you — should follow the same rule.
I have always truly believed in the rule of “F*ck Yes or NO”, and recently an article by Mark Manson reminded me of it’s relevance – especially in today’s casual dating culture.
This meant that Russians often joked about the Ukrainians as being sort of backwoods hillbillies and the Ukrainians often thought of the Russians as effete city slickers.
It doesn’t matter if you are “sort of” into the person because that’s simply not good enough!
You wouldn’t waste calories on a huge slice of cake just because it tasted “fine,” right?
Instead of putting ourselves through days, months or even years of Dating Purgatory, we must move on unless we feel certain that there’s a serious level of mutual interest.
Otherwise, we are just letting someone who is clearly not “the one” block the right person from getting to us.
And the Ukrainian people are still closer to the land than the Russians.