First off let me say that many men keep their profiles active even though they are interested in the woman they are regularly dating.
Men are slower to commit and many also need their ego “stroked”.
As I discussed above, I would recommend against being aggressive or angry.
Still, these are areas you will need him to define.
My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, I check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so.
I have read what you have written on this subject and I know you said that men are slower to remove their profiles than woman – so my question is how long is reasonable to wait for him to do this before you say something or begin to feel offended by it?
In some cases, this could cause what he saw as a healthy, budding relationship to end abruptly.
I’ve had several readers write me they argued with the man they were dating to ask if I thought they had made the right choice.
If he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off.
You enjoy each others’ company, enjoy the same things and over the next month or so you start to date more seriously. However there is one problem: his dating profile is still active.
If this sounds like your situation, you’re not alone.
When my profile was still up I did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago.
I haven’t said one word about it since but I am wondering how long to wait.