Hi, I’ve committed one of the biggest professional don’t’s: I’ve started dating someone I work with.I’ve checked the HR manual and the only mention of relationships in the workplace is that you can’t be the manager of someone that you are related to or romantically involved with, and neither is the case with us.Is this something we have to bring up with our boss? Thanks, BG Dear BG: It is not surprising that you have gotten into a relationship with someone at work.You spend about a third of your life while you’re awake at work.When you layer the romance on top of it, it can be even harder to voice disagreements.You need to work hard to make sure workplace disagreements do not create personal problems.
Everyone has had days when they are angry with a coworker because of something that has happened at work.But, here are some things to think about: One problem with working closely together at your job is that there are times that you are going to disagree about the direction of a project.It is hard enough giving criticism to coworkers and having workplace disagreements.You don’t want people thinking that you are just doing things to advance each other’s careers or so that you can spend time with each other.The more honest you are with people about your relationship, the more that people will trust your workplace decisions.
That may save a tense discussion in the short-term, but it opens up opportunities for long-term problems. You might not even be at the point where you want to announce this relationship to your close friends.