A common gripe shared by many women I met concerned the fellow who arrived at the meetup bearing little resemblance to the guy in the profile.
This advice applies to both sexes: Don’t post pictures of yourself from 10 years and/or 40 lbs. Don’t rave about your intense exercise regimen when you’re really a couch potato.
Believe me, it’s a much better strategy than scheduling a coffee date and finding you have little or nothing in common.
If you’re not confident in your writing skills, reach out to a friend or family member for help.
Take it from someone whose new “friend” ran up the bar tab while keeping her purse hidden all night: Start with coffee. The sad fact is that some people are just looking for an excuse to go out with especially a naïve chump who will pick up the bill. Case in point: After connecting online and hitting it off over an extended phone conversation, I met a woman for a happy-hour drink.
She was an attractive redhead with a sparkling personality and a great smile.
Her response caught me completely off-guard: “You’re a really nice guy, but as a larger woman, I need a larger man.” While “larger” is always open to interpretation, from my perspective, she in no way fit the general definition of the term. She self-identified as such and envisioned herself with a man of more Falstaffian proportions, which I lack. Some of my cyberdates went nowhere, but a few women became trusted friends and confidants.
This explains why several ladies in northern Wisconsin sent inquiries despite my stated intent to remain within metro Chicago for dating.Things were unfolding beautifully, from similar interests to shared acquaintances.As our time together was coming to an end, I suggested a second date.Don’t claim to be a gourmet cook when you can barely boil water.Don’t portray yourself as someone you’re not, because sooner or later your date will get a peek behind the curtain. If the good vibes are mutual, you’ll be scheduling another get together soon, anyway. Many among us have a hardwired set of beliefs regarding how we appear to the outside world and what our ideal mate should look like, and we are disinclined to stray from our preconceived notions.