The littlest thing that was said in passing, months before, is suddenly brought up again as a supposed glaring infraction on our part.
We want you to trust us so we aren’t always walking on eggshells.
We started dating casually, but we fell for each other hard and fast.
It wasn’t long before we were discussing where we wanted to live when we moved in together, how we would integrate our families, and what our wedding would be like.
Almost any potential mate can handle a child that is not their own coming to visit four days a month.
It isn’t that big of a disruption in day-to-day life.
No, I’m not talking about being physically beautiful, or being “arm candy” (although that is great too.) We want to be able to take you to company functions and family reunions, and as we are leaving, we want our bosses, our coworkers, or that old slightly-senile uncle who always smells suspiciously like whiskey to pull us aside and tell us we better hang onto you, because you’re a keeper.
It’s almost as if people assume that if we have a penis, we are incapable of caring for a child for more than a couple hours without some kind of assistance or intervention from their mother.
When we did find time to see each other, we were both so exhausted from work and taking care of our children, that we barely had enough energy left to sit on the couch watching Netflix until we passed out.
Needless to say, the communication and intimacy in our relationship quickly began to deteriorate.
Most of that dating was fairly casual, but I have been in a couple relationships—the most recent and most serious of those relationships having lasted just under two years. Or at least I realize now looking back on it just how easy it was.
You can live your life, go out on dates, and pretty much do whatever you want within the confines of the law for 26 days out of the month.
Easy or not, the majority of those four years, I was battling some fairly serious depression and anxiety due primarily to the minimal time I was able to spend with my daughter and the ongoing conflict with her mother.