The Christian man or woman who wants to marry a follower of Jesus must look for a spouse who has learned what it is to die to self in allegiance to Jesus. It won’t take long to learn from Facebook and Twitter and blogs if this man or woman is passionate for Jesus or if Jesus is an incidental mark on the shoulder or a trinket around the neck.Then, if contact happens there are great questions to ask. I don’t know, Tony, you might want to link to this document.I have met numerous couples recently who said they met online and they are happily married. Put your energies into becoming that kind of person.50 Questions to ask before you marry — its on our website, and actually it may be easier to find in the ebook. Be it six months, twelve months, eighteen months, or sometimes even longer, things will reveal themselves.In the meantime, people can become so fixated on analysis and progress that they don’t take the time to take in the excitement and wonder of this unique moment in a relationship. Being in love is a very vulnerable act, and having one’s heart broken is an incredibly painful experience.” I say that the biblical issue here is not how you meet, but whom you marry. Let’s just get this clear and then I will circle around to the other.A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives, but if her husband dies she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. So biblically the bottom line for the follower of Christ is: Will you marry only a believer.
Now what this means is a Christian woman won’t just look for a man who has a cross tattooed on his shoulder, but a man who is ready to die daily in the sacrificial calling of leading a home.
I more easily fell into this flawed quest to determine the long-term viability of a relationship — immediately asking questions about families of origin, personality, and character.
In the end, there is no test like the test of time.
Love as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her.
And a Christian man won’t just look for a woman who wears a cross around her neck, but is willing to die as she submits to his leadership in reliance upon Christ.
Both husband and wife are engaged in constant self denial as they live out the beauty of the Christian marriage.