If that’s you, choose someone who is kind and drop someone who is unkind. They’re addicted to porn and not dealing with it I wish this wasn’t true, but the devastation I’m seeing from it has to be stated: women, if you marry a man who is an out of control porn addict, he won’t be able to be a satisfactory lover in marriage for very long (if ever). He will face ED issues decades before men normally do.
A few relational “infections” can all but erase many good qualities.
I’ve seen the following six major character weaknesses become significant hurdles for marital intimacy and satisfaction and even take down some marriages. Givers don’t always mind being in a relationship with a taker because they like to give; it brings them joy. Unless you have unlimited funds and can pay for your house to be cleaned, your kids to have a full-time nanny, and your spouse to stay home (if he or she wants to), you’ll run into serious problems if you marry a lazy person (and if you a married person you won’t be able to afford any of that).
But there are times when the giver will need to receive. The taker freaks out, abandons the relationship, or just runs around in an emotional and relational panic wanting everyone to feel sorry for them, only adding to the giver’s problems rather than alleviating them. It might seem like a holiday when your boyfriend or girlfriend is all about play and always trying to take you away from work, but if they do that to an extreme and never demonstrate self-discipline and initiative that carefree spirit will grow very tiresome, very quickly. He/she lives primarily in the virtual world instead of the real one I’ve talked to couples where the wife spends too much time on Facebook or Instagram, or the wife is so invested in her blog about her marriage that she barely has time for her marriage.
Does your boyfriend go out of his way to make people feel better rather than worse in social situations?
If there’s a need, is your significant other someone who is often the first to step up?
Kind persons love being kind; it gives them joy to be kind.