Or do you look at a few other guys in awe because they seem so much more awesome?If you think another guy is cooler, or if you admire a few qualities about another guy you meet, it only means you’re lacking that quality yourself in comparison with that guy.[Read: 12 ways to get any girl’s attention no matter where you are] And once you do get her attention, all you need to do is talk and charm your way into her heart.How to win a girl’s heart effortlessly Most guys make the genuine mistake of playing the game of winning hearts with their heart.After one date, after three dates, after three months… But it left me thinking: Why would I choose not to go out with a woman a second time? Drinking habits, driving habits, fashion choices – none of them enter the equation. Amazingly, the reasons are always the same – and they were the very same reasons I’d pulled away from many surprised, confused women myself… Here’s what I came up with: She wasn’t physically attractive to me.
But if you really want to win a girl’s heart, you need to learn to still your heart, and play the game of hearts with your mind.
Have you ever dated a guy and thought things were going GREAT between you, only to have him suddenly start being flaky, or stop calling, or vanish all together? I first realized there was a big gap in men’s and women’s perceptions when I was writing my first book, “I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book – A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating”. This is the main premise behind Why He Disappeared. It’s that you’ve never fully understood why certain men choose not to stick around. If he’s shallow and fickle and uncommunicative and still thinks he should be dating Angelina Jolie, let him knock himself out. But when you do meet that rare, relationship-oriented, quality guy, how can you be the most self-confident, self-aware, irresistible man magnet around? But is every man really as straightforward as you are?
In my work as a dating coach, this is the number one complaint I hear. My friend Jen had sent me a list of over 300 things that men did wrong on first dates. You made partner in your fifth year and you have a time-share in Vail? Will you wake him on Sunday morning with chocolate chip pancakes and morning sex? It makes us feel secure and studly and all those things we rarely feel on our own. Once you get it, you will have a clearer, easier path to love – and a lifelong ability to understand and connect with men. It all starts with understanding what men are thinking. I have a male friend who criticized his ex-girlfriend because her grammar wasn’t as good as his.
You see, I have a unique perspective – I’ve not only dated hundreds of women (before I became happily married) but I’m a coach for both women and men. Suddenly, the editors were on the phone with a question: “Funny list, but what about a list for women? It’s not that I was above it; rather, I never even thought about it. You graduated summa cum laude from an Ivy League masters program? I think a lot of women reading your blog are concerned about more than just getting a 2nd date. And from the guys I’ve known, it seems that they care more about sexiness and lightness when it comes to deciding to have LTRs with women.
And I’ve had countless nice, decent, relationship-oriented guys tell me why it SEEMED like they really liked a woman but then bailed on her. I finally cobbled something together with the help of some friends.