On the other hand, the difference between a 45 year-old man and a 50 year-old woman is basically nothing. And some single women are at an age when a five year age difference means nothing.
Which gets to the problem with this blogger’s advice: it cannot be generalized. My heart is especially tender for this latter category of singles, since I have a number of single friends in their 30’s and 40’s who long to be married but have fewer and fewer options available to them.
A few weeks ago I came across a blog post titled 10 Women Christian Men Should Not Marry. It advised against marrying women who are not followers of Christ, as well as women who love to gossip or slander. As for the rest of the list, I cannot agree with much of it–mostly because his “types” are only bad stereotypes, which isn’t very helpful.
However, I was surprised and then a little bit tickled when I discovered this type of women at #3: “The Older Woman.” Under this category, the author explained that marrying an older woman is not a sin, but it’s also not “God’s ideal.” He goes on to reason that it “requires an extra measure of grace to lead a woman who’s older than you.”As his scriptural justification he cited Adam and Eve: “God intentionally (with good reason! Scripture informs us that God created man first chronologically for the sake of authority!
My husband is and has always been one of the wisest people I know.
He understood and listened with thoughtful curiosity.
We are never told that the creation order was a prescription for the birth order of spouses. This is a case of reading a particular interpretation into the text, and should be discarded as such. Age, personality, background, life goals, life priorities, and other personal qualities are all important considerations when thinking about marriage.
Returning to “the list,” a conservative Christian man probably would not like being married to a a Christian feminist woman.
How they lived and the things they were into totally brought me back to the days of being a college student — and not necessarily in a good way. Age might only be a number, but life phases are a very real thing. Because of this, we had different income levels and expectations for social activities.
Although we managed to meet in the middle most of the time, our age gap showed when it came to differences in lifestyle. Despite our obvious differences (which became increasingly clear as the weeks went on), one of the main reasons I’ll never regret dating my younger guy was because he treated me like a queen.
Instead, his actions are typically motivated out of love for God and love for others, and he’s been that way as long as I’ve known him.