The next day, that same co-worker brings you dozens of menus from every restaurant in your city and asks you to pick one. “Some people get overwhelmed by the amount of choice and approach online dating as a job, trying to get through as many profiles, or setting up as many dates, as possible,” she explains. If you go out on a string of bad dates, forgoing plans with friends and family, you start to feel disheartened and even annoyed by the process and time wasted.” (Cohen is clearly in my brain.)2009 study conducted by social psychologists from Cheng Shiu University in Taiwan showed that when we have a large array of options, we may have trouble ignoring irrelevant information.
“Their research showed that when presented with larger online dating pool samples, participants spent more time searching through the profiles and had more difficulty screening out inferior options,” says Cohen." data-reactid="42"A 2009 study conducted by social psychologists from Cheng Shiu University in Taiwan showed that when we have a large array of options, we may have trouble ignoring irrelevant information.
“More options are not always better.”Cohen likens the flood of matches to choosing a restaurant for lunch.
What are the pitfalls — and why might it be better than IRL dating? If you prize options above all else, online and app dating delivers that in spades.
What are the pitfalls — and why might it be better than IRL dating? " data-reactid="31"I get it — online dating is the new “normal” in today’s day and age.
But I’m also a person who values her time and emotional investment (like most people).
I got endless matches, all right, but I also didn’t know which matches were worth my time. Are we now too afraid to approach interesting people in real life because we know we can just go back to the comparative “ease” of approaching people online?
But I had a sneaking suspicion that this 21st-century way of dating might actually be stunting our personal growth.
Within 48 hours of joining Tinder, I had about 200 matches — which, as a writer/professional hermit, is probably more than I’d meet in five years doing the meet-and-greet method.