And when you meet new people – concentrate on being interested in them rather than worrying whether they like you.Nothing is more flattering than someone who is genuinely interested in the person they are talking to and who takes time to really listen and understand.I did the usual things people do when looking for a partner: hitting bars, going to clubs and asking friends to look out for suitable dates.However I had a couple of encounters and no joy finding a potential partner.I was brought up in loving household with my Mum, Dad and my brother.My parents are Roman Catholic so being gay was frowned upon within their religion.Also, I would not know now how to chat someone up and I have exhausted every line in the book.Friends are giving me their support and giving me different advice: 'You are trying to hard', 'You are not trying hard enough', 'Someone will come round the corner soon', You are too fussy', You do not have enough gay friends to meet someone', 'You need to like yourself before someone will like you' etc. Many thanks Jason Dear Jason, You get ten out of ten for effort.
Focus on your good points and work to improve any areas where you feel insecure.
After these paths dried up, I went internet dating, speed dating, joined social groups, spoke to help lines, read self help books, and even hired a life coach. I have been on dates with different types of men to try and get a connection with someone.
I think part of the problem is that my confidence is low.
Have you got some ideal in your head of the perfect person?
If so, it may be that you are being too fussy or unrealistic.
Perhaps you still feel people are ridiculing you and maybe you find it hard to trust people or to accept if someone is genuinely interested in you.